I am Confused!
There are very few people who like e-mails more than snail mails, very few people who like telephonic conversation more than face –to-face communication, and very few people who want to live in imaginary world rather than reality and finally very few people would like to be detached from any relationship rather than getting into lively relationships.
Of course there are exceptions to every thing. When you are desperate for some one’s love right away, you would rather click a button and get some love notes form your loved one like an e-mail, rather than waiting for the snail mail. When you are very far from your loved one to chit chat, you would prefer hearing his/her sweet voice on phone. Or some one you dislike, you would rather deal with him/her on phone than being face to face. In the same way even though imaginary world is often beautiful, but it is better to live in real world.
But then there is problem with every thing. Some times I get confused that which is better e-mails or snail mails, telephonic conversation or real conversation, real world or imaginary world. There are few good things and few bad things with each of them. I have been thinking about it for a long time, but never sat down to analyze it. Today I was hurt, I got into some poor conversation, which led me to fight, and then I thought I could have avoided it, if it was a telephonic conversation, if I was not face to face, if I was not so attached, if I lived in real world instead of thinking of living in a world where every thing is nice and pretty. So I came to the following analysis.
When you Talk on Phone
1) You do not have to answer right away. So you can think and answer.
2) You wait for the other person to finish before you respond.
3) If you sense disagreement you can easily change the topic, which will save you from getting into fight.
4) You can not see the facial expression of the other person.
5) And so you believe in what ever the person tells you.
6) You are not judged since the other person can not see you.
When you talk Face –to- Face
1) Like a normal conversation you respond when ever you feel like saying
2) You can see the facial expression, which are some times very
3) If you sense the disagreement, you still cant digress, as it can ignite the
If you are attached to some one
1) Even small things will concern you, because of the care and love.
2) You feel like you are on cloud nine as there is some one who cares for you so much. A sense of security prevails in you.
3) A sense of dependency kicks in.
4) Small emotional argument hurts you.
If you are not attached to any one
1) You are like a care free bird.
2) Feeling of lack of intimate relation with any one will hurt you.
3) You will have the sense of insecurity.
4) You won’t have heart breaks.
5) You do not have any expectation from any one(This is the most improtant one).After analyzing all these, my head started to hurt. So I must stop thinking more about it. And yes I forgot, the more you analyze, chances are that more bad thoughts will attack your mind. So I should rather stop and make tea for me and sit in the balcony and enjoy for what ever good things I have in my life instead of agonizing over small things. Now look, getting into wee bit of fight is some times cathartic for you. So some times do that and let me know if you also felt the same way.
Ive had my share of bad, face to face, email, chat and telephonic conversations and thought they could have all gotten worse, they could have all been avoided too.I don't know,I haven't found a single solution to it.I do think however, it is the communication that is essential and one shouldn't lose those threads.All else is secondary.
ReplyDeleteHope you enjoyed your tea.
It is extremely easy to miscommunicate, so I always try and take care of what I say to anybody and everybody.
ReplyDeleteMy picks:
ReplyDeleteEmails
Real conversations
Imaginary world
As u analyzed everything has a flip side,but the thing i love in telephone is tht if u dont like the conversation u r having or if u wanna get away frm it, u can always hang it up.In real conversation its much more difficult
hii.. thats a very detailed analysis.. Keep up the good work.. I can now understand how my dates never went ahead of the first ones.. :)
ReplyDeleteI have a cell phone. It's a very pretty paper weight. The real phone if I don't recognize the number right off, I let the machine pick it up.
ReplyDeleteI have email and I do check it.
Most of the time, I deal with people in the real world. Face to face, you want to talk, I'll make coffee and we hang out on the front porch. We can watch the world go by.
Arguments, I do as a face to face. It's too easy for me to hang up on the other person. I tell them we will handle it in person.
e-mail: you can take your own sweet time to come up with the reply.
ReplyDeletetelephone: should reply at once, but you can pretty easily make the other person believe that you mean something even if you actually don't. all you have to do is keep your voice square. you can cut the conversation anytime and simply blame the telephone network.
tete-a-tete: you need to keep your vouce square and your face straight. pretty tough. i think i have annoyed a lot of people by laughing on occasions when i shouldn't have.
I think depending on the situations the usage of one over the other comes into picture...
ReplyDeletebut we are close to someone.. its nice to have small arguement and then patching each other.. thats creates fun and entertaining.. for a longer time.. :) which are memorable.
Each of these means of communication has it's own advs and disadvs. Nice post.
ReplyDeleteBut I always like a good old-fashion face-to-face conversation :)
Keshi.
Very good analysis! I think email is practical and snail-mail is romantic :)
ReplyDeleteBut I think even if you were on the phone it was possible that you could have got into that conversation. Whats more imporant is you analyzed your convo and are trying to make amends. That is wonderul
u must be a genious with algorithms
ReplyDeleteIts sometimes good to live in the imaginary world; then to live in this big bad world.
ReplyDelete"enjoy for what ever good things I have in my life instead of agonizing over small things"
ReplyDeleteThat seems like hte best thing to do in life. There are so many beautiful things in life, there is no time to spend on small thing :)
still confused??
ReplyDeleteAll kinds of communication have their own pros and cons and one has to use each some time or another.
ReplyDeleteBut who has the time for snail mail in today's world? Do people still write letters? Nobody I know does!
An awesome post from you.
ReplyDeletePersonally to me, if I had my mom, I wud send her snail mail. But now its what if, and I use email. Thaz the difference.
I converse for a little in telephone, but I can't go on and on and just tell the other person, I have an incoming call and hangup.