Empathy !

There are only three situations in life according to me when you need some one’s empathy or sympathy what ever you say. They are-

1) Life

2) Death

3) Sickness

With life, I mean when a woman is pregnant and finally goes to the labor room, which is the time she cannot manage things on her own. At that time, she will need some one without any doubt. Throughout the pregnancy the changes a woman body goes through is beyond any men’s imagination. Nausea, morning sickness, backache, mood swing, cramping, leg ache and what not. During this time she needs some one who can empathize with her, she does not need the sophisticated love at that time, she just needs childish love and care at that time, some one who can be on her side all the time, no matter how stupidly she acts. I bet you she will remember that person for the rest of her life. She will do any thing for that person if needed.

Death is another tragic situation where people need others empathy. They want some one to be along the path of grief and pain he is going through. This is the reason it is a well know fact the people forget rivalry which is coming form generation and empathize with the grief stricken person. The sufferer always remembers this act as gratitude, and tries to pay it back when needed.

Third situation is sickness. It goes without saying how desperately people need some one at their bed side when they are not feeling well .Empathizer may not me a doctor but his simple, words work like a miracle. His little act of sympathy buys him a world full of gratitude, gratefulness and a life long friend who will stand for him no matter what the situation is.

This is what empathy is. It has so much power that we can make plenty of friends. However, the reverse is as dangerous as any thing you can imagine.

Then again there are only very few people who will always empathize with you no matter what the condition is ,no matter what crime you have committed ,they will always be on your side.

Those two categories are-

1) Your parents (mother and father)

2) Your grandparents.

Youngsters run after love and filmy drama of boyfriend and girlfriend and husband and wife, but in the end, there are very few of them who will empathize with you unconditionally. Some people just ignore their parents and fall in the delusion of love and start disrespecting them. This is only because of the sexual desires, which at times become so strong that people become blind.

In the end, parents will forget all the disrespect you have shown them and accept you with the same love and admiration. People talk about husbands; they are called the better halves, significant halves. I say this is all rubbish. They just fulfill their own need. They have so many egos that it is hard for them to love their wives unconditionally. Same thing goes with the wife too.

The entire thought makes me so much depressed at times that I find this world not a good place to live at. Just imagine if a husband is not with you when you are pregnant, when your loved one dies or when you are sick, what is the use of that husband. What can you expect from other people.Will your parents ever ignore you and not care for you,if they see that you are having health problem.I am sure this will never happen.what more can you want when you are sick,few words of sympathy,a gentle touch from your friend /husband/wife.Is that so hard to give.I guess not but then here kicks in the ego which parents /grandparents do not have at all.

Then there is one relaxing thought, your parents. You may not be with them all the time but their memories are so precious that even when you are in pain they bring smile on your face.

Right now, I need just that. I have never felt sick this way.But my bad luck,I am having hard days,sick to my stomach.Don't need any thing else except a warm hug from my mother, few good words form my father. A mother who can listen to my problems,a mother whom I can talk to, can understand what pain I am going through. Can’t ask for any thing else from life now.