Can Crying ever be cute?
My daughter is going through terrible two's right now.Wow ! never heard of this term when I was in India and saw so many kids born in my own close family and going through the same age.
I have no idea what goes into the brains of toddlers of this age that they are always at the verge of severe melt down and nothing you can do at that time to mollify them.They just decide to cry and cry and yes keep crying.
Anytime I say "no" to some thing I am prepared to get the shrill crying for at least 15-20 minutes.This becomes even more horrific at night when I cant apply the policy of "cry-it-out".
Oh My God ,I am going through that terrible situation right now.It is as if she disagrees with every thing and anything I say or ask her to do.Seems like she disagrees with her self too at times.Now there are thing she can do on her own and there are things which she cant do.Her problem is she has got a very independent mind(that is good to some extent) and wants to do every thing on her own,for example make oatmeal for her self "on her own".There are several such things which I dont even have the list for.Of course I will say no to those risky things and there she goes again .
One of the major reasons of meltdowns is putting her in the car seat.She wants to sit like mommy and daddy.Now here we have to be very stiff and forcefully put her in the car seat even if she does not want to.This has become so annoying that we avoid going out to places unless necessary.
All these so called "terrible two's" got me to thinking why is this concept not so well know in India.I came up with few logic of my own.Firstly there are so many people ,family , friends and kids around that children get distracted easily from their own tantrums and secondly there are several less reasons to give them the chance of crying.There is no theory of child cars seat so from the very beginning they know that they have to sit on elders lap.Their mental frame is set up like that.Here once they get their own toddler's seat now they want more than that.It is like offer some one to sit on the floor and after some time the person becomes so rightful that asks for the chair to sit even though he is not allowed to do so.
I am trying to keep my composer and tackling the situation as calmly as I can but I need to vent this some where.
I have no idea what goes into the brains of toddlers of this age that they are always at the verge of severe melt down and nothing you can do at that time to mollify them.They just decide to cry and cry and yes keep crying.
Anytime I say "no" to some thing I am prepared to get the shrill crying for at least 15-20 minutes.This becomes even more horrific at night when I cant apply the policy of "cry-it-out".
Oh My God ,I am going through that terrible situation right now.It is as if she disagrees with every thing and anything I say or ask her to do.Seems like she disagrees with her self too at times.Now there are thing she can do on her own and there are things which she cant do.Her problem is she has got a very independent mind(that is good to some extent) and wants to do every thing on her own,for example make oatmeal for her self "on her own".There are several such things which I dont even have the list for.Of course I will say no to those risky things and there she goes again .
One of the major reasons of meltdowns is putting her in the car seat.She wants to sit like mommy and daddy.Now here we have to be very stiff and forcefully put her in the car seat even if she does not want to.This has become so annoying that we avoid going out to places unless necessary.
All these so called "terrible two's" got me to thinking why is this concept not so well know in India.I came up with few logic of my own.Firstly there are so many people ,family , friends and kids around that children get distracted easily from their own tantrums and secondly there are several less reasons to give them the chance of crying.There is no theory of child cars seat so from the very beginning they know that they have to sit on elders lap.Their mental frame is set up like that.Here once they get their own toddler's seat now they want more than that.It is like offer some one to sit on the floor and after some time the person becomes so rightful that asks for the chair to sit even though he is not allowed to do so.
I am trying to keep my composer and tackling the situation as calmly as I can but I need to vent this some where.
Oh! this sounds tough. Though I never knew about this "two" phase. I hope this phase gets over soon for you.
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