Solutions to have peace among your kids!

My elder daughter who is 6 years old ,has some terrific solutions to avoid fights and have a good time with their siblings.I was amazed at the suggestions and also surprised how she is following through those solutions her self with her younger sister.Now some quarrels still happens ,after all they are still small kids but to much extent things are working well.

Few days back I got so frustrated with ongoing fights between my 6 year old and 3 year old that I was out of my wits.As usual I consulted my trusted wiser my elder daughter "T" for help even though she is one of the culprits .I asked her to write down few point about following:-

I asked her what is good about fighting?
And here are her points which will amaze you as well.In her own handwriting.

                                                                             


1)I get what I want.

2)I can do what I want.                                                                
3)By fighting I get it over with.
4)I get to play with people.      

 5)I get things to do what I want.  


                                                                     



Then I asked her what is bad about fighting,and here are the points she came up with.

                                                                             


1)I get punishments.

2)I loose love.

3)It is a bad thing.

4)I do bad things.

5)I regret by fighting.






At the end I asked her if she has any solution to stop all these bad things and here are her solutions.






1)I can do something else.

2)I can play with my toys.

3)I can read books.

4)Let her bring my shoes.

5)I can move away.







Lets see for how long these things work.She actually pondered about every topic for a long time and wrote every thing in her good sense and seriously.May be while writing these she must have thought about her own mistakes and dosent want to repeat them ,who knows the wiring in their heads.