Taking Credit for everything!

When I was small growing up I had a friend who happened to be our neighbor too.It was  a joint family.There were lots of family members in that family.My friend had her Aunts,Uncles,cousins,grand parents and so many others.It was a lovely family in so many ways. Especially for kids that house was heaven.They were entertained all the time by one family member or the other.Everyone had a big feeling  of protection and dependency,which I liked a lot.Everyone expected from everyone so everyone was very nice to each other most of the time. 

My friend's mother was the eldest of all the aunties.She was otherwise a very good natured,loving and caring person.Single handedly she was able to carry on all the responsibilities with out a flinch on her face.As a result she was always very busy and would work very hard from day till night.

What I did not like about her that she wanted to keep all the praises ,all the admirations to her self.She was so self-centered in this area that she could do any thing for it.So much that even if she was sick she will carry on all the responsibilities all by her self. Other Aunts would be standing behind her  wanting to offer help in any way she wanted but my mother's friend would not let anyone touch anything.

The strange thing was she never complained about any of these ever.She never complained of doing so much work except her action would express that she is solely holding the family together,as if that ,if she was not there everyone would starve,as if  without her people would live on dirt,as if no one will wear clean clothes,as if kids wont go to school.

Indirectly this was hurting  other Aunties as they were feeling worthless.They agreed that there were lots of things which my friends's mom had to take care of but apart from those there is nothing else which other Aunties could not do.

The matter of fact was that my friend's mom did not want other members to get credit for anything.She did not want anyone to feel worth anything.As if everyone else was just a looser.Which in return started developing resentment among other Aunties.They knew in their hearts that they are capable of doing things my friend's mom can do.After  a while they stopped even offering for help.

That was when it completely backlashed.Not being offered any help ,kind of pulled the trigger of anger in my friend's mom.However she still could not change her self.After a while my friend's whole family moved to some other place ,and I lost track of what happened.

My point is, why not give people a sense of being worthy,why not make other people feel that they are capable to contribute and  their contribution matters.