why we cry when we depart?
Today we had a very interesting conversation on the dinner table about why we cry when we depart from our loved ones.
My daughters were making fun of the old folks such as my mother and their grandmother and were thinking how ridiculous it is to cry when we depart.They dont understand the emotions behind the act.My husband on the other hand was explaining to them how fake crying is when we are departing.
I think it is just a matter of perspective ,gender ,societal demand and how emotional the person is.According to my husband , crying wont be necessary if it was not the custom.He dosen't believe in emotional feelings.
I ,on the other hand think that in some cases it might be just a pretense or social pressure to break into cries, but when the relationship is very intimate tears come out naturally.
It might be certain sentiment which makes you cry when you depart.For me, I break into tears when I leave my parents behind. When the thought flashes to me that my parents are old and this might be the last time I am seeing them ,I can not control my tears from flowing .The thought of being alive on this earth when my mother is no more, is beyond my imagination.I cant think of a way to lift myself up and come out of the grief of loss of parents and that thought always makes me cry when I am departing.
Things are not the same with other people.I know there will be physical distance ,but in this digital day and age physical distance dosent matter much.I know that all the other people are going to be around for a long time as they are of my age.But with parents things are different.
It is very important to teach this emotional connection of departure and length of life .And I think because of the absence of this emotional feeling ,kids now a days don't even think twice when they dont go and see their parents for years or completely ignore them .
My daughters were making fun of the old folks such as my mother and their grandmother and were thinking how ridiculous it is to cry when we depart.They dont understand the emotions behind the act.My husband on the other hand was explaining to them how fake crying is when we are departing.
I think it is just a matter of perspective ,gender ,societal demand and how emotional the person is.According to my husband , crying wont be necessary if it was not the custom.He dosen't believe in emotional feelings.
I ,on the other hand think that in some cases it might be just a pretense or social pressure to break into cries, but when the relationship is very intimate tears come out naturally.
It might be certain sentiment which makes you cry when you depart.For me, I break into tears when I leave my parents behind. When the thought flashes to me that my parents are old and this might be the last time I am seeing them ,I can not control my tears from flowing .The thought of being alive on this earth when my mother is no more, is beyond my imagination.I cant think of a way to lift myself up and come out of the grief of loss of parents and that thought always makes me cry when I am departing.
Things are not the same with other people.I know there will be physical distance ,but in this digital day and age physical distance dosent matter much.I know that all the other people are going to be around for a long time as they are of my age.But with parents things are different.
It is very important to teach this emotional connection of departure and length of life .And I think because of the absence of this emotional feeling ,kids now a days don't even think twice when they dont go and see their parents for years or completely ignore them .
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