Real sadness!
Few days back I was standing outside the school's gate to pick up my daughters.An Indian grandfather approached me and started talking to me.He was standing with his grandson.
He just asked me if I live near by the school and then he explained to me his home address.Until then I had no idea he was in so much grief and pain.His face was still very calm and smiling.
After few seconds he asked if it is possible for me to pick and drop off his grandson for few days as his son is sick and had surgery.I thought that it is just for 4-5 days and his house was on my way,so it wont be any trouble for me to pick-up and drop-off his grandson.I asked him for his phone number and home address.As we were talking his son came walking to me very clumsily.With in few seconds I found out that this is the son who just had surgery and is unable to walk properly but still had to drop-off and pick-up his son.
I was still not aware of the painful condition the whole family is going through.Then as the son was thanking me for offering help.
Later that same day I went to their house ,to check out if one more child seat can fit in my car as I already have 2 child carseats installed in my car for my daughters.My fear was another car seat wont fit in my car as my car is a smaller model.I still wanted to check and make sure if the care seat fits.
I drove to their house with a heavy heart thinking about the father and his health condition.I reached ,parked my car and walked to the door.There was a vibe of sadness I could feel the moment I pressed the door-bell.The father opened the door with a painful face as if was in tremendous pain but still smiling thanking me for coming.
He asked me come inside and sit while the grandfather fetched the car seat.While I was sitting I asked the father what his health problem is and he says ,"He has colon cancer."
Then he described how painful the chemotherapy is.I was in aghast,in tremendous shock.I was having a hard time believing.What I thought was a simple matter of 4-5 days turned out to be such a heartbreaking news.Now I was more indebted to help the family .I was ok to go out of my way to help the family. After the conversation was over ,I just looked at the 5 year old son and my heart cried out for him.The son was completely oblivious to was going on.He was happily playing and watching T.V.
Then I saw the Grandmother who was cooking in the kitchen.She gave me a smile.I could not stop my tears.I just felt the pain of a mother who will have to see the demise of her son sooner or later in her lifetime.What can be sadder for a mother to see her own son die in front of her eyes.
In all these I could not stop but notice that mother of that 5 year son is no where to be seen.Where can the mother be, leaving her 5 year old son and a dying husband who just had surgery and has colon cancer.
But very soon I figured out that there is a problem with the relationship and the mother does not live with her son and husband.
The grandmother offered me two sweets.I was still contemplating what should my reaction be ,but the grandfather signaled me to take the sweets otherwise the grandmother will feel bad.After that I took the sweets with out hesitating but, I could not make my self eat them.In a sad moment like that, how could I eat sweets.I quietly put them in my pockets.
After that the grandfather checked if his grandson's car seat would fit in me car ,but sadly it did not .I already had this fear and now it was certain.
Finally I had to say sorry to the family as I was of no help to them.I left their home with a heavy heart thinking this was least I could do but I failed.I looked at the grandmother, grandfather and the grand son and was filled with grief.The deceased leave the world but, what happens to the loved ones on the earth ,no one can measure the amount of grief they have to go through.
I drove back home with a heavy and unsettled heart.Life can be so fragile and so sad at times that our heart can not hold the grief.However different people take these things differently.I was not able to focus on anything that night thinking about the 5 year old kid and the grandma and grandpa. How will they cope-up with this grief? Who will console them?
At this old age will they have the stamina to tolerate the sadness of the death of their son?
When we see people like these ,we should consider our selves very fortunate for not going through that kind agony and pain.
I wish and pray to God and, hope that the chemotherapy works and he gets better.Now that is the only thing I can do .
He just asked me if I live near by the school and then he explained to me his home address.Until then I had no idea he was in so much grief and pain.His face was still very calm and smiling.
After few seconds he asked if it is possible for me to pick and drop off his grandson for few days as his son is sick and had surgery.I thought that it is just for 4-5 days and his house was on my way,so it wont be any trouble for me to pick-up and drop-off his grandson.I asked him for his phone number and home address.As we were talking his son came walking to me very clumsily.With in few seconds I found out that this is the son who just had surgery and is unable to walk properly but still had to drop-off and pick-up his son.
I was still not aware of the painful condition the whole family is going through.Then as the son was thanking me for offering help.
Later that same day I went to their house ,to check out if one more child seat can fit in my car as I already have 2 child carseats installed in my car for my daughters.My fear was another car seat wont fit in my car as my car is a smaller model.I still wanted to check and make sure if the care seat fits.
I drove to their house with a heavy heart thinking about the father and his health condition.I reached ,parked my car and walked to the door.There was a vibe of sadness I could feel the moment I pressed the door-bell.The father opened the door with a painful face as if was in tremendous pain but still smiling thanking me for coming.
He asked me come inside and sit while the grandfather fetched the car seat.While I was sitting I asked the father what his health problem is and he says ,"He has colon cancer."
Then he described how painful the chemotherapy is.I was in aghast,in tremendous shock.I was having a hard time believing.What I thought was a simple matter of 4-5 days turned out to be such a heartbreaking news.Now I was more indebted to help the family .I was ok to go out of my way to help the family. After the conversation was over ,I just looked at the 5 year old son and my heart cried out for him.The son was completely oblivious to was going on.He was happily playing and watching T.V.
Then I saw the Grandmother who was cooking in the kitchen.She gave me a smile.I could not stop my tears.I just felt the pain of a mother who will have to see the demise of her son sooner or later in her lifetime.What can be sadder for a mother to see her own son die in front of her eyes.
In all these I could not stop but notice that mother of that 5 year son is no where to be seen.Where can the mother be, leaving her 5 year old son and a dying husband who just had surgery and has colon cancer.
But very soon I figured out that there is a problem with the relationship and the mother does not live with her son and husband.
The grandmother offered me two sweets.I was still contemplating what should my reaction be ,but the grandfather signaled me to take the sweets otherwise the grandmother will feel bad.After that I took the sweets with out hesitating but, I could not make my self eat them.In a sad moment like that, how could I eat sweets.I quietly put them in my pockets.
After that the grandfather checked if his grandson's car seat would fit in me car ,but sadly it did not .I already had this fear and now it was certain.
Finally I had to say sorry to the family as I was of no help to them.I left their home with a heavy heart thinking this was least I could do but I failed.I looked at the grandmother, grandfather and the grand son and was filled with grief.The deceased leave the world but, what happens to the loved ones on the earth ,no one can measure the amount of grief they have to go through.
I drove back home with a heavy and unsettled heart.Life can be so fragile and so sad at times that our heart can not hold the grief.However different people take these things differently.I was not able to focus on anything that night thinking about the 5 year old kid and the grandma and grandpa. How will they cope-up with this grief? Who will console them?
At this old age will they have the stamina to tolerate the sadness of the death of their son?
When we see people like these ,we should consider our selves very fortunate for not going through that kind agony and pain.
I wish and pray to God and, hope that the chemotherapy works and he gets better.Now that is the only thing I can do .
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