My Views and Ideas: Life and Parenting

Through out our lives we get motivated by many people .On the other hand some of the advises are given in such a way that they actually crush your motivation, lower down your self esteem to such a low level that you will never be able to get over with it. The fact that the suggestions based on what ever knowledge a person has gleaned in the past or some of the knowledge he/she still continue to glean may not work out for you. As a result, over the time I have come to a succinct conclusion about giving positive feedback or positive motivation. In this post, I would like to share with you all. I have tried to make it very simple by giving an everyday life example. Positive/Negative Suppose your roommate cleans up all the dirty dishes when you are not at home just to help you out. What will be your reaction when you see the dishes clean? There are two possibilities you will say :- 1) Thank you for doing the dishes, but next time, try to get all the food part...

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I do not know when and how I got into this situation, but as far as I remember, it has not been more that 3-4 years back when I was a free spirit like a bird. I always felt that I am the best and I have no demerits, impossible word never existed in my dictionary. Perhaps because parents do not normally point out the drawbacks as criticism and they only know how to encourage. May be that is not the right way to do, but for me at least that always worked as miracle. It is different that I made their dreams sour and could not keep up with their hopes. Still I was always confident that I have potential to do any thing I wanted. I was always happy, laughing and tension free. My laughter was contagious at times. However, things have changed lately. I have lost all the confidence I had. As if any thing I will do, will make some one or the other unhappy and irritable. I have lost confidence in my communication skills, so much so that I just want to be quiet all the time. I always have the fe...

These two things matter a lot in our life .Earlier I never thought about it, but now I feel like our happiness, celebration of happiness and joy they all depend on space and time. By space and time, I mean the surrounding you are in at a certain time, the place where you are at, at any particular time. If you think about it deeply it all makes sense. I have been postponing writing for a long time, in search of the real answer behind how time and space changes the emotions and needs. How time and space bring closeness to relationships. It amazes me at times. I never understood the depth of the concept behind time and space effecting the celebration of joy, perhaps I never encountered that situation in my life before, what I am experiencing now. Back at home, every small joy was a thing to celebrate, share your heart and double that joy. Once you are away from home every thing changes. I am not saying all these because I am being nostalgic. It is because these days I am feeling a v...