My Views and Ideas: Life and Parenting

I never thought on this topic before. When I got married, I had no idea of what marriage is, how people adjust to this relationship, what the downfalls are of arrange marriage and what is appreciating about love marriage. The only thing I knew was I would live with my parents forever. I was not ready to leave home and my mommy yet. However, in my heart I also knew I had to get married very soon looking at my cousins. That is Indian culture. After I got married, my world was full of happiness, life and enthusiasm, which I never expected. I was expecting some one who would get up in the morning, wear a "loonge", read the newspaper with a cup of tea in the morning, and do puja for some time. When he is doing puja I am not supposed to disturb him, he would never go out to have fun, or have dinner or lunch outside. He would always be very serious etc etc. On the contrary, when I got married things were just the opposite. My husband is more like a small kid than a grown up m...

Of all the revolution underway since the coming of the digital age and internet one of the most profound may be the revolution and transparency in private life. Today millions of people share their deepest feeling, their most embarrassing moments and every detail of their daily routine with any body, everybody on the earth who wants to the take time to read or watch.Good or bad or indifferent, this is different. This is the end of the private life as the new generation puts itself lock stock and barrel online. If you are a blogger or an online diarist, if you share your life most of it or bit of it ,you can easily imagine what I am trying to say. It seems like now private life has become old fashion. Computer is pushed so much into our lives these days that we want to archive every bit of our life in to the hard drive. This can have major decline and fall effect on our private selves. This is an explosion in our private lives. Vast majority of the blog is of personal nature. Earlier...

Last week went to do the first shopping for my baby. I was full of enthusiasm and more than that which was much unexpected; my husband was even more enthusiastic than I was. I was surprised at his involvement in picking up every item with so much refined taste and vigor. I am very well familiar with his refined tongue taste but this was completely a surprise to me. I had a short list of things to buy. Being completely new in this area, I am ignorant about the necessary things to buy. All the baby items looked so pretty and cute that I could not resist buying what ever my eyes caught a hold on. Normally in our country, new parents do not do this shopping and let the elders do shopping. However, things have changed in recent scenario. It is not always the case that the garden where you were planted once, you will grow in the same garden. That means it is not sure that when you get pregnant your mother, your aunt, your mother in law, your sister will be with you. That is the irony ...

I remember when I was at home, my mother used to make sesame bars or sesame balls all the time. Not only in the special festival but otherwise too. The main reason behind starting to make that was health .My father was transferred to a place which had lots of cement factories .As a result problem of pollution was huge and people used to develop lung and breathing problems a lot. When My father was transferred to that place as a precaution doctor asked him to eat products made of jaggery.Now eating jaggery alone was a not an easy task ,so my mother came up with the idea of sesame balls or bars which were made of jaggery. No matter what the reason was, we kids also had good time eating them even though we did not live in the cement factory place .My father lived there alone and would come on weekends. Unconsciously I also learn't making that. Now I live in a place, which is so polluted that we do not get a chance to see the starts in the sky. Since Phoenix is a valley ...

I just finished the book “Who moved my Cheese” by Spenser Johnson. This book was so riveting that I could not stop myself to write about it. I have read many inspirational books but this book seemed very realistic to me. It is a simple parable that reveals profound truths. It is an amusing and enlightening story of four characters that live in a “maze” and looking for “cheese” to nourish them and make them happy. Two are mice named Sniff and Scurry and two are “Little People”-being the size of mice that look and act like people. Their names are Hem and Haw. Sniff had the habit to sniff out the situation and see the changes early,Scurry liked to go into action immediately,Hem wanted to stay in familiar territory of misery and Haw was realistic to accept the change and find solution. “Cheese” is a metaphor for what we want to have in life-whether it is a good job, of loving relationship, money, a possession or spiritual peace of mind. And the “maze” is where you look for what you wan...