My Views and Ideas: Life and Parenting

After I graduated I did not ever  think that I will sit at home and become a housewife .I had big dreams for my self even after I failed in getting admission in  a medical college. I never forget that I did not achieve what I dreamt for.Just recently when I was reminded of my perpetual dependency as a housewife ,it occurred to me, if I am even fit to guide my daughters to the path of success.I always question myself if my daughters should even follow my lead in any journey of their lives. I always make sure to reinforce the knowledge in my daughters heads ,that always reach for independency in life.Do not make the mistakes I made by just throwing away my self into a relationship which has its own boundaries. When the novelty of relationship wears off  ,which always does,you will be left with nothing other that regret and helplessness.

There is a lot of news about China ending the one-child policy.Couples are happy that now they can have two kids,that now their kid will have a company ,a play mate , a life long companion. I am happy we never have to go through the restriction of one-child policy. I look at my daughters and wonder, what they would do without each other.When ever they are separate from each other they seem so lost. It is such a common occurrence to catch them hugging and happily talking,telling stories,updating them about their whole day's stories to each other.They have mountains of things to tell to each other. However sometimes they are their worst enemies too.Although that is very temporary.They either make up quickly  or look at each other pensively and then their  anger vanishes very soon. Both sisters mean so much to each other that I cant think of them as a separate entity at all.

Just recently I was reading a book from Shashi Deshpande(A Matter of Time) and there was something very intriguing mentioned which almost made me peep into my own soul and my existence in this world.It is a story about a couple in which the man --a respected professor, a loving husband,a caring father walks out on his  family for the reasons even he can not articulate.By just one  single act he got out of their 35 year old relationship .Obviously he did not have any gripe with his daughters,so it must be the wife. May be she was not very intelligent or smart. Not lacking education or culture, just not very clever intellectually. Obviously he himself was quite an intelligent man, and it must have been frustrating that he could  not hold some intelligent conversations with his wife because she has a lot of trouble getting what he was  talking about or understanding things properly. May be as much as he liked her ,he  did not love her enough as to feel that his...

Science says that sores on the tongue heal very quickly but sores given by the tongue never heals. It still hurts.

The worst decision of my life was coming to a new country without finding my own ground of survival first.

When I was small growing up I had a friend who happened to be our neighbor too.It was  a joint family.There were lots of family members in that family.My friend had her Aunts,Uncles,cousins,grand parents and so many others.It was a lovely family in so many ways. Especially for kids that house was heaven.They were entertained all the time by one family member or the other.Everyone had a big feeling  of protection and dependency,which I liked a lot.Everyone expected from everyone so everyone was very nice to each other most of the time.  My friend's mother was the eldest of all the aunties.She was otherwise a very good natured,loving and caring person.Single handedly she was able to carry on all the responsibilities with out a flinch on her face.As a result she was always very busy and would work very hard from day till night. What I did not like about her that she wanted to keep all the praises ,all the admirations to her self.She was so self-centered in this area that s...