My Views and Ideas: Life and Parenting

Earlier I used to write about my daughter’s monthly progress. Recently I have noticed that I have stopped that either because she is growing up very fast and her progress in so overwhelming that I do not know from where to start, what to write and what not to write . Her every single activity makes me astonished and leaves me mesmerized. In short, I am trying to put down her progress. She is very active and full of energy. She is always in a blur of movement. One moment she wants to sit with us and the next moment she wants to play on the floor. Recently she has learnt to smile a lot and would always keep dazzling every one with her cute smile. The other week we went to the doctor’s office and for the first time she responded to the doctor’s hello. She smiled back and made me extremely happy. Her curiosity has no end at all. She wants to touch anything and every thing. These days like a mouth purifier she always has to have some thing in her mouth. I keep giving her pieces of app...

A person like me will always have a very hard time to live the life without feeling restricted. Some times, it is better to open up, put your heart on the table, and put your priorities first. The outcome may not be pleasant all the time but at least you will not loose your identity as an independent person. However, independence depends on several other factors like financial freedom, your confidence level, the responsibilities you have and most importantly how you choose to pursue those responsibilities. When I was in college, I would hear from people that women are never self-dependent and at that time, it did not make any sense to me. I always thought that after finishing college I will have an independent life of my own in which I will do whatever I want. I was always very confident to get a decent job, have financial freedom and live my life .Unfortunately that did not happen. As soon as I got married, things just changed. I left India and that changed almost every thing. Fi...

People want to get a job to achieve financial independence and at the same time also security for the future.People should think more about the future than the current age as according to me old age is more important and miserable in several respect.People need more help and that requires more money.When you are young body can take all kinds of hardship,but as body ages it needs more pampering. Therefore one of the important economical planing should be to calculate enough saving to live a carefree life once you retire.This is a safe strategy to keep in mind.The maximum age at which you retire is 65 and most likely your life expectancy will be 80-85 considering the fact that you live in the U.S and have better medical care . All the above is right.However you cant get a sleepless night just because you think that you have saved enough money to live carefree after retirement.The value of money is going to keep decreasing day by day.The very well known fact of "Inflation" is m...

I often listen to a talk radio program which is based on health and health problems.The host is a board certified chiropractor and also a nutritionist.Every morning starts at 8:00am for 4 hours.Since it is only on Saturday I listen to it very leisurely,listening along with finishing my morning chores. First few times I listened to it because I thought it could be informative.Now I listen to it to make fun and just have some entertainment.What makes me laugh a lot is the way the doctor(the host) promotes the supplements and dietary formulas.Americans are already addicted to medicines and supplements and if they do follow this doctor's suggestions then people would become like a walking pharmacy.For every thing and any health problem this doctor asks to take some kind of vitamin supplement.For a change some times he also asks to eat certain vegetable but that is very rare. His talk show makes me think that how perverted the medical profession has become where doctors are just to earn...

Life is never what you have thought for your self.At least for me.In some sense it is better than what I thought and in some sense worse than I thought it would be.Most part of my life is very pedestrian.I have a fixed routine for every thing.Read the news papers,read books,learn new words etc-etc which at times becomes very pedantic .The only excitement in my life is my daughter. I feel the ineffable joy and happiness when I see my daughter walking,making baby noises and roaming around the house .At the same time ,I also think about my parents especially my mother who must have done nothing less for me than what I am doing for my daughter right now .After becoming a mother myself ,I understand the emotions very well which was just hidden inside me for a long time.2-3 days back my mother was very ill,she was almost at the verge of crying when I talked to her.Even though she knew that I wont be able to do anything for her still she could not stop herself from telling me every thin...

There was time when I was so much into genetic studies ,scientific researches and current news.It has always been very amazing to me as how genetics plays such a big role in peoples life and social well being.You are most of it what your parents and ancestors are , not only with respect to anatomical makeup but also from the physical appearance point of view. Ironically few medical problems existed in my family too ,however not in any of my immediate family member . Fortunately so far I dont seem to have inherited any of them and am very thankful to God for that.My maternal grandfather had high blood pressure and my aunt has eczema.As I grew up I was very sure that at some point I will get eczema but thankfully it never bothered me so far.When my daughter was born she was as pure,smooth and creamy as butter.There was not a hint of flaw in her skin.After about one month she got few rashes and I thought it is just minor baby rash.I started keeping her cleaner than ever and that h...

People say that your likes and dislikes change with age and time. May be some of them are so close to your heart that they never change. One of the likes or you can say a dream of mine to carry my baby on my back never changed. I know it sounds ridiculous but this is true. I remember when I was a teenager, a tribal woman used to come to our house to help my mother in household work. She had a daughter, which she would tie on her back and do all the work. She would come once in the morning and again in the evening. I would wait for her to come in the evening, so that I can play with her daughter and tie her on my back as her mother did. In the morning, I would easily miss the school and play with her. But I knew that is not going to happen so I never insisted. In the evening, I would force that tribal woman to tie her daughter on my back the way she ties her daughter on her back. She would tie her daughter on my back with a long cloth. At that time there was no fancy sling like...

Looking at my daughter now, I remember my childhood, growing up in a small town. Things were so different than now. Now a days kids do not get out of their house to play. Firstly, they are too hung up with their studies, homework and other school activities and secondly even if they have time they would rather play video games, watch T.V, or play with other gadgets. There is no physical activity at all. In the U.S, things are even worse. Here very rarely I see kids outside their houses. Some times, I wonder if kids live in the U.S. Nevertheless, I have decided that once when, my daughter grows up I will try to build a taste of physical activity and playing in her, if I can. When I was growing up, we used to play so many outdoors games .Some were very strenuous and some of them were just leisurely but it had to be out side the home. There was one game called “haddi-dappa”.As the name (“haddi” means bones) is so was the game. You have to have a very strong bone to play. Th...