My Views and Ideas: Life and Parenting

Socialization has always been as issue with my daughters and I do not blame them at all for it.They are growing up in the U.S isolated from their family ,very few friends and almost no get-together.this isolation was the single reason I started sending "T" to a day care for few hours just when she turned 2 and 1/2 years old in a hope that she will get to see some kids on  a regular basis,some new people other than her parents.I do not know to what extent that helped her because at time she would just not communicate with anyone and cave in holding my finger all sacred.I still did not give up hope and singlehandedly kept trying to make her socialize more and more.As a mother of two kids ,doing all the household chores all by my self from school to home obviously I hardly get time to play a lot with my daughters. I forcefully  set some time aside from my household work to  play with them. Yesterday to make "T" happy I made some sandwich and juice ,packed them and wen...

whenever we drive to a place my elder daughter  "T" always finds some thing interesting to talk about and at times the conversation reaches to a very profound conclusion and some times the topic turns out to be very humorous. She has always been fascinated by having her own house.Some times I think I am the one who ingrained this idea in her brain because right now we live in an apartment and  I always wanted to have my own place no matter how small it is.So every time she will become excited by looking at some one's backyard with small slides or swing or such kid's play item she will ask me why she cant have those things.Every time my response will be that since we live in an apartment and we do not have much space we cant have those things.I am writing this as the story line is based on the fact that my daughter also  wants  to have  our own house where she will have freedom of space to use. Most of the time just when I am about to clean my sink full of ...

These days "T's " school is closed for summer vacation so she wakes up late compared to school days when she would get up at 6:30 in the morning.When the summer holidays started I thought we will have lots of time to do lots of thing together,set my routine  of exercise and eat on time   but  nothing like that happened.Now I feel I have less time than I had before.She wakes up at 8:00 am and goes to bed at around 8:30pm.So that means ideally we get roughly 12 hours after eating and other mundane chores apart from taking care of my younger daughter.In these hours we have to fit in three meals,two milk time, snack time ,some time in the park,some reading writing practice ,a bed time story and some arts and crafts activity. And these 12 hours are just not enough for every thing. of course some times we skip going to park ,some  times skip reading writing practice  and on some days we  end up not doing anything.Even then it feels like time...

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When I decided to have another child after the first one became almost 3 years old,I thought they will have a good company to each other.The main reason behind it was the sense of insecurity and absence of family in the U.S.Far ahead when I look I do not see any chance of my kids going back to India and settling down there. Even if they have to  ,I do not think  my kids will  even know their  immediate family members very well .It is very difficult to keep the kids stay in touch intimately with family while living in the U.S. I show to them the family photos ,they get emotionally connected but the moment the pictures are gone from in front of the eyes they forget about everyone.They talk to each other over the phone but the feeling is as if talking to an nonexistent person.It is even more difficult for small kids to understand that the world is very big and there the other side of the world too.One moment I will explain to my daug...

These days my daughter is learning  more about god and Jesus.I do not know how she relates God to people but she is developing a strong faith  upon God ,which is in a way good and in some ways not good for her development.Good in the sense that this faith in God is always preventing her from doing the wrong thing for her age.I believe this, because every time she is mean to her sister ,the fear of God's punishment stops her from doing that.The believe in God is bad in the sense that these days to complete every task she relies upon God or seeks help from God.Even for the small things she starts calling God to help her.For example yesterday she was not able to find her shoes and she started calling for help and was very confident that God will whisper in her ears as to where to look for her shoes. At her age it is hard for me to explain to her that God is just a faith.If I try to explain to her, she encounters so many new words that we get hung up on learning n...

How days take turns is hard to believe.It seems like just few days back  my daughter was born ,I did not even have enough of her childish treats that my younger daughter was already here.After the birth of my younger one all of a sudden I felt that my elder daughter has become very big(even though she was just 2 years 9 months old).In her subconscious state of mind she also feels that ,however her childish behaviors are still as it was. But yesterday I could not believe that she really is my little comforter I have always wanted.I was full of tears for some emotional reasons even though  I was trying to hide from her.As  a keen observer she bends her head to peep in my eyes and asks me:- "Mamma your eyes are full of tears" I said yes ,it is because of all the smoke in the room from  all the cooking I have done. She says "No mamma it dosent look like smoke tears,it looks like you are crying in real". I tried to convince  her in many wa...

Happiness has become such a hard find entity for people that sometime I wonder does becoming happy really require so much or some times just by little things you can become happy. People preach about happiness to other people ,give ideas how to become happy and how to bring happiness in your life.At the same time they are unable to see that what they themselves are doing is so much against what they are preaching .What can I say ,I do not know whether to laugh or throw the same preach back to the person with little bit of my own vision. I have two little kids .They need me almost all the time for every thing and anything.Their need for me is not only necessary but that is how kids are.They want me to be around them all the time.I feel important , proud and lucky that they need me so badly because I know few years from now they wont care as much about me.At that time I will want them to come sit with me and spend some time from their busy schedule,studies however right now th...