My Views and Ideas: Life and Parenting

 The f irst time when I heard this, I was very intrigued, because I always think about it. Why can't people think the same way as they think of them selves. Here are the questions that come to my mind. 1)Why is someone more important than the other irrespective of everything around us? 2) Why can't we show more empathy towards others because there is some significance in what ever the other person might be doing? 3) Why not acknowledge the credibility of others too? Who knows may be what you are doing is unimportant to other people. This thought came to me the first time during this pandemic, when as a homemaker my effort and work has no value. Sometimes I may be cooking something and we will have to go somewhere...like to fill up drinking water from the dispenser outside, I have to turn off the switch and go because that is the time when my hubby can take a break. Why is my work not important and his work is? As if earning for bread is more important than making the bread. But...

  Today is almost mid way to the first quarter of online learning for my children. Today it has also been 6 months of P working from home. I am as it is, except my life has changed dramatically in last 6 months.  In the beginning I thought, this is God's boon that we are fortunate to spend time together, but as time is passing, I feel, we are getting more and more far apart than before. There is less emotional connection between us now. I have seen P work like this in the early days when I just moved to America. That time was difficult enough for me. I came from an extended family surrounded around me to completely no one at all. P worked like crazy and in the free time he was too engrossed in watching T.V. I did not mind because I was also pursuing my masters degree and would spend most of time learning and studying. Even though at times I wished I had someone to talk to. Now P starts working by 7:30 Am and works non-stop till 6:00PM. He eats lunch too while working.  T ...

Don’t take responsibility for your child’s disrespect. The time when we are still career builders ourselves or as students we see things with a different perspective.We are more forgiving to our selves and more often  tend to ignore our mistakes , as long as the mistake is irreversible.  After finishing my studies in India when I moved to Phoenix, Arizona in 2003, I looked at everything with a completely different attitude.Even though I was a migrant , I never took my mistakes personally if pointed out. It was a whole new life for me and I took every embarrassment, every fallout as a learning opportunity. Never did the thought crossed my brain that it is my fault and some thing is wrong with me. In India Life, culture, language, etiquette and more importantly accent is so much different compared to U.S.A. For me it was like learning everything from scratch. I would listen to radio show constantly and try to copy the accent. Remind you not the T.V., bu...

We go out to so many places.Restaurants, stores, just random walk and many such places, we observe lots of things.My husband being a very observant person tells me one day, "have you noticed one thing ,where ever you go you will see older people more than young people". He said most people are either in their 40's or more often between

Now that I live in The U.S and I have my own kids I can clearly distinguish the difference between growing up in India and the U.S.

Tax Advantaged Account 1) ROTH IRA( contributions are made after paying taxes.You dont have to pay tax later when you withdraw it) 2) HSA(Health saving account) 3)529(kids education account) 4) 401K (contributions are made with pretax money)

Today is January 19th .Sara is sitting on the couch with a cup of tea waiting for her mother’s phone call ,as today is her wedding anniversary.It is her 19th wedding anniversary on January 19th .What a coincidence.Sara’s mom’s favorite number was 19th ,because Sara was born on 19th and married on 19th ,however months were different.Her mother was always confused about which month was for what celebration but she always remembered the date 19th. Then all of a sudden Sara realized that the phone will ring, but it will never be of her mother again because she is no more.The mother who took care of Sara when she was small was no more.Every step Sara took as a baby,every time Sara fell while learning to walk ,her mother was there to pick Sara up but when her mother fell ,Sara was not there to hold her hand, to help her mother .This guilt was killing Sara from inside.All she could do was ,just curse the moment when she decided to leave her mother all by herself .But now there is just regre...