My Views and Ideas: Life and Parenting

When I was in India , one thing I always used to dream about was , that one day I will be able to drive a car.I would be sitting in the auto while commuting to college or any other place and when ever I would look at some one driving a car,I would envy him/her with a vengeance with out any reason,especially if the driver is a "her",my envy would turn into anger.The anger would reach to the peak point when my auto is stuck because of slow traffic,and I am constantly inhaling carbon dioxide guzzling from the other vehicles and also the car waiting just beside my auto.In a hope that a day will come when I will have my own car and I will be able to drive would give me inner satisfaction and relief that nothing to be so envious and angry about. So after coming to the U.S.,first thing I decided was I will learn driving as soon as possible.But that time didn't come really quick as desperate as I was.It happened only after 2 years.One night my best friend reminded me of this h...

I am sure all of you must have experienced the feeling of joy and elation when some one just read your heart and mind and get you really wanted at that very moment. It is a well known fact that, the better communicator you are; the better your life is going to be. Communicating clearly can be very effective and time saving at times. Just stating your ideas, your problems, what you think about certain things can save you from going through a lot of stress and agaony.Instead of that ,pondering on the problem for a long time can not bring the creative result. That only creates negative stress ,eventually which is bad for your health. Every one knows that but some times, time and circumstances does not allow you to open up. Some times the thought of rejection or hurting your dear one can stop you from opening up. Human beings have very complex mind. You can never meet it end to end. These days I am very happy. For few years, I have always wanted to achieve that pleasure, but co...

Our Second day visit in this trip was to Oak canyon creek. As the name explains it self that it was a magnificent canyon covered completely inside, with oak trees. The unique part of this canyon was the abundance of oak tree, which was making the environment and the canyon itself very serene and tranquil. As the description explained about Oak Creek Canyon is a 12 mile long river canyon located along the Mogollon Rim in northern Arizona located between the cities of Flagstaff and Sedona .The canyon is often described as a smaller cousin of the Grand Canyon because of its scenic beauty. Oak Creek , a tributary of the Verde River, flows along the bottom of the canyon and is one of the few perennial streams in the High Desert region of northern Arizona . Along the way to my description of this Canyon I will post few pictures, as you know pictures are worth more than a thousand words. All the candid pictures of oak canyon creek, were very close to my heart even though I not being geo...

Well, here I am after nearly two weeks to our trip to Flagstaff , Sedona and near by places. I am still around and in good spirits. The first day of our trip was to Flagstaff Humphrey’s peak. That was the last day for chairlift sky ride to Humphrey’s peak, and we were lucky enough to catch it on time. Snowfall was very young at that time and the mountain peaks were all covered with snow, not enough snow to do skiing yet. ( PICTURE OF A COUPLE IN THE TROLLEY) So as soon as we reached there, it felt so soothing. Since Phoenix is so hot and just after 2 hours drive there was the stark difference in the weather. We were all prepared with our warm clothes and jackets. At the peak temperature was 40 degree F. We put on our jacket, took a quick bite and started our journey on the chairlift sky ride. It was 1 hour ride back and forth. A soon as we started, I was prep...

All my friends out there, if you remember this is the follow up blog of my earlier blog “My Dream” . I am very elated to share my joy that my friend has become a father of a beautiful baby girl. You must be thinking why I am so elated about that. Apparently I have two reasons for that, to which I will come later. We all hoped the baby to be born near 15 th November. But she came early. It seems she was also very excited to see us all. It was 5 th of November, a very hot day here in Phoenix . Since my friend always says that November in Phoenix is very pleasant. So I decided to call him and ask how he was feeling right now. And he gave me this lovely news, that he is in the hospital, and baby girl was born. Now let me come to the point as why I was so elated about it. If you remember I had created a dream child of my own and named him “Dawn”. He still exists and growing up very fast. He has become very intelligent .I have taught him how to access the Internet and so the whole ...

Here is piece of thought for all my friends in Blog World! We sit and we type, and we stare at our screens. We all have to wonder what this possibly means. With our mouse we roam through the rooms in a maze Looking for something or someone as we sit in a daze. We chat with each other. We type all our woes. Small groups we do form and gang up on our foes. We wait for somebody to type out our name. We want recognition, but it is always the same. We give kisses and hugs,and sometimes flirt Sometimes we chat deeply and reveal why we hurt. We do form friendships - but - why we don't know, But some of these friendships will flourish and grow. Why is it on screen we can be so bold? Telling our secrets that have never been told. Why is it we share the thoughts in our mind With those we can't see as though we were blind? The answer is simple. It is as clear as a bell. We all have our problems and need someone to tell. We can't tell real people, but tell someone we must. So we turn ...

Just few days back there was a very informative interview of Deepak Chopra was going on XM Radio on channel 121.My fried came from some where and asked me to tune in to that channel. The room was dark, so it took me some time to go to that channel as I was also trying to turn on the light .Feeling my disability to tune in to that channel fast , my friend asked me “is that channel 121?” I said “no it is not.” But he couldn’t hear me correctly and sneeringly said “that is not channel 121?” Upon which I got really agitated and said “Can’t you see I am turning on the light and trying to tune into that channel!” Well that was it. We ended up getting upset with each other for quite a while just because of this communication problem and as result were rude to each other. A little communication problem can lead to a serious result and can cause a great deal of misunderstanding. Even though this a very simple and scientific and well researched topic still people fall into that problem m...

Every one has some negative and disconcerting and some positive and constructive imagination going on in the brain. Both of them are right with their own logic. At certain point your negative thoughts will seem more congruous with your current bad situation. And at the same time, some part of your brain will tell you that, you are digressing from the path of acquisition of any thing creative in your life because of that negative thought. It happens to me all the time. Negative thoughts will prevail more often on me especially when I am very happy or when I am extremely sad. When I am very happy, every thing is good and then suddenly a part of my brain will force me to think .What is the reason, why am I so happy, I have no reason to be so happy and content? Etc –etc.And then the gush of all kinds of negative thoughts will capture my brain. I will find my self the most miserable person on this earth. All the reasoning appears true to the farthest extent to keep my negative thoughts...

A couple of months back I had an interesting dream. One of our friends is going to become a father in the month of November. Since I have seen his wife, we talk to each other often; she shares all her experiences with me. We talk about her new feelings of being pregnant, how she feels when the baby encounters tiny kicks inside her tummy. Some where inside my heart, I am very happy for her. After that talk I completely forgot about this topic. But I don’t know what thought of mine was running inside me, in my subconscious state, that few days back I had a dream about it. I saw that, the father of that unborn child laid down that child in front of my door steps. The child was chute and very sweet, with wide eyes and was smiling. After laying him down, he went away. I was standing at my door and watching the baby. My heart was full of love, and wanted to hold the baby. The baby was chuckling and giggling, and throwing his tiny hands and legs. Suddenly I saw that half of his body is hangin...

I was the youngest child of my parents. I had three elder, loving and caring brothers. And the age gap between my eldest brother and me was about 10-11 years. So he was always very protective and caring towards me. May be because of this reason I was never taken seriously. My consent never matter all that much as I was/am considered a child, who only needs love and affection. More over there were no problems which would come to me before it would go to my parents or my brothers. And personally my self, I never felt the need, or any deprivation, to interfere with what is going on, or what are the problems at home. Every one kept me miles away from all the worries and tension. So this was my childhood. In spite of all the love and care, now when I have grown up enough and no more with my parents or brothers, I feel that the attitude of my parents and myself too, was not a good idea. Loving your child and at the same time also showing him/her the responsibilities are two diffe...

When I came to the U.S the first thing I missed was my mother and the second thing was the tasty, delicious and mouth watering food. I could not over come the emptiness of my mother’s presence and I guess will never be able to. I don’t even try to overcome because I know all my effort will be in vain. Her warmth, her friendliness and caring nature is so deep inside me that some times my heart just cries out “I need my mother”. The second thing is food which I am trying my best to get as better as I can make it or have it. Some of the typical Indian Food items, specially those street foods keep roaming in my thoughts not only when I am awake but also in my dreams. When I wake up I find myself drooling on the pillow. And the misery is ,I never get to eat them even in my dreams. This is one sad story hha---! I love Indian junk food items like Samosa,jalebee,pani-puree,rasgulla,gulabjamun, (mmmm----).It is not that I do not like American fast food or junk food items, I love them too,...

There are very few people who like e-mails more than snail mails, very few people who like telephonic conversation more than face –to-face communication, and very few people who want to live in imaginary world rather than reality and finally very few people would like to be detached from any relationship rather than getting into lively relationships. Of course there are exceptions to every thing. When you are desperate for some one’s love right away, you would rather click a button and get some love notes form your loved one like an e-mail, rather than waiting for the snail mail. When you are very far from your loved one to chit chat, you would prefer hearing his/her sweet voice on phone. Or some one you dislike, you would rather deal with him/her on phone than being face to face. In the same way even though imaginary world is often beautiful, but it is better to live in real world. But then there is problem with every thing. Some times I get confused that which is better e-m...

There is always a different kind of personality hidden in every person, whether he/she realize it or not, accept it or not, but there certainly is. Some time this difference is due to physical capability, due to emotional conditions, or due to certain circumstances. I have realized that, here are similar kinds of differences in men and women both, whether people accept it or not, and I some time wonder that how would this world look, or this world be, if man and woman be similar in their individual characteristic , their habbit, their emotional feelings, their capabilities, and every such quality which is specific either for a man or a woman. There are some basic traits in every human. But adding only one more traits to a particular human makes it either a man or a woman. That quality is so powerful which makes a person behave, or look, either like a woman or a man. So I feel like there is only one trait missing in a man or a woman.I guess that trait is womanhood,mother hood ...

One of our friends father had a heart attack last week in India . We went to his house just to cheer him up a little. As we were talking about the medical facilities and natural health conditions, the truth dawned upon me so spontaneous that it has changed my complete process of thinking. He said that even though his father’s life is saved who is around 70 years old, but his day today activities will completely change now .He can no more do any minor strenuous activity and will have to live a limited life style in retrospect. He seemed very unhappy about that. Countries like U.S.A. , Japan , and Canada have become so advanced in medical treatments and research that average Life span has gone up tremendously. In one sense it is good, that you feel fortunate to live with your loved ones for a long time, but if you look at the other side, life is becoming more and more miserable. It is in fact true. The diseases which are curable and do not limit your daily activity to certain ext...

I am not sure whether it is true or false,still I want every one to know about it. A team of organized criminals are installing equipment on legitimate bank ATM's in at least 2 regions to steal both the ATM card number and the PIN. The team sits nearby in a car receiving the information transmitted wireless over weekends and evenings from equipment they install on the front of the ATM (see photos). If you see an attachment like this, do not use the ATM and report it immediately to the bank using the phone on the front of the ATM. The equipment used to capture your ATM card number and PIN are cleverly disguised to look like normal ATM equipment. A "skimmer" is mounted to the front of the normal ATM card slot that reads the ATM card number and transmits it to the criminals sitting in a nearby car. At the same time, a wireless camera is disguised to look like a leaflet holder and is mounted in a position to view ATM PIN entries. The thieves copy the cards and use the PIN nu...

How many of you have had the experience of being on hold on phone for a long irritating time period? I have come across this problem many times, but I would not call them a problem as I never had this kind of experience before. I wanted to share my experience with phone on hold, as I suppose every one must have faced this some time, perhaps the experience might have been more irritating than mine. Yesterday I wanted to get an appointment at the doctor’s office. So first I called the insurance company for the approbation if the doctor is “in Network”. I got thorough an automated machine, and a series of question started to throw on me. In the beginning I was fine, thinking that O.K .one more, and one more and I will get through this. But it never ended. I asked my self to be calm and composed for a while and bear with the situation, but apparently after 15 minutes of questionnaire session my anger started to exacerbate. My tolerance became worse when after the last question I was kept o...